AITA for refusing to listen to my husband?
I want to have a breast reduction surgery. I will not be asking him to spend any money on me. We both work and we put aside equal amount of money for private accounts for private savings and spendings so please do not make it about money.
I have been talking about this surgery since I turned 40 but I have dreamed about it since I was 15. Whenever I spoke about it he would sit silent and listen (supported me I thought) then he asked if I wanted him to go to my first consultation and I was very happy. Consultations are usually private here but he wanted to tag along for the first part of the consultation.
When I talked to the doctor (who is an internationally respected doctor) my husband sat silent at first then he asked when the psychological evaluation would happen. The doctor was puzzled and explained that I am an adult.
My husband got irritated and almost yelled “so you would not mind operating on people with body dysmorphia.” The doctor and nurse were shocked and I was livid.
When we got home I was destroyed. I am scared I have lost my opportunity with the best surgeon in the country and probably one of the best in the world.
My husband insisted I needed therapy and that he will not allow me to have the surgery because I look perfect. I asked him what he meant ”not allowing me” I was very angry and crying. He said ”well, I will do anything, tell your family you are mentally unstable and I will leave you”
Thankfully I made a new appointment and the doctor was too kind. I have my new appointment on Wednesday. My husband is livid and said he will never look at or touch me again.
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